There is no gun

Recently, there was a post going around on Facebook titled “I pump so other mothers will think I breastfeed”. This post, along with a few other things that have been surfacing lately have left me more than frustrated.


If, in fact, you feel like someone truly is. Get out of that toxic relationship. Because they are far from supportive and far from a true friend. A true friend empathizes with you, offers support where they can and stands behind you in your decisions.

I chose to nurse my 3 kiddos. Let me tell you, it has (and still is) a ROUGH journey that ended sooner than I was ready for. Jayden, due to stressful and odd work situations as well as allergies, I was only able to pump until 6 months before moving to formula. Josiah straight up said “thanks mom, I’ve got it from here” at 10.5 months so to formula he went. Judsen, at 4 months, is still nursing. If you know me personally, you will know that it is by the grace of God we are still nursing. Anything that could go wrong, has gone wrong. BUT I am determined to nurse.

Why am I so determined to nurse? Let me tell you, it isn’t because of media or anyone else telling me that I need to. I want to because feel like it is the best route for MY kids. Did I say your kids? NOPE!  I want to look back and feel like I provided the best base for their little lives. What I picture when looking back includes breastfeeding, getting mommy’s perfect milk.

Do I think that everyone needs to nurse?? NOPE! I do think it would be great for them to get the colostrum early on if possible but I don’t think that babies are only loved, well cared for or whatever if they are breastfed!

I think, like with most things in life, we create these expectations on our-self. Pressure to be thin, have this kind of hair, dress that way, eat this food etc. No one is forcing us to do those things but we feel that we are failing if we don’t do that. Media has a bit to do with it but really, its our own mind.

So, stop blaming others for choices you made and may regret. Stop taking offense to things that aren’t meant to be offensive. Make informed decisions and be happy with what you chose, don’t let anyone hate on your parade.

You love your baby and how you feed them, breastmilk or formula, has nothing to do with that!

You are a great mom, don’t let yourself put pressure on yourself!!!



As a blessed American, I have the liberty to make a number of choices for myself. This is an extraordinary ability that can have a variety of outcomes. 

Many times, however, our choices have consequences that are chained to us for sometime.

If you don’t pay your bills, you will have collectors at your door- loose what you have and be chained to that financial situation for about 7ish years.

If you eat incorrectly, you will gain weight. Its harder to loose than gain. You become chained to the feeling of being overweight and having no idea how to get out.

You catch my drift. ONE decision can create a lifetime of hurt,pain and chains for you.

How do we go about becoming unchained from our past issues so that we can move forward??? This is something I am still searching for. As I am working through my chains, I have discovered that it has a lot to do with forgiveness, attitude, desire and frame of mind. You have to want it!

Who wants to walk around carrying those heavy chains of past mistakes? Not me!!!

Right now, I am conquering my weight chain. Its opening a whole lot of painful thoughts I’ve harbored about myself. Its making me face some not so comfortable things. However, I am beginning to feel better and better as I’m letting go and moving on!


Its not easy but worth every tear!


-becoming unchained